Always been wondering why women are a little bit altruistic (a bit, I mean) than men I know in my life. Some of the stories I have heard, I read, I met all have a same link of men being little selfish than us. Is it because of the privilege the society provided or simply his brain is wired to function that way? We all are awfully familiar to their sense of entitlement and confidence in Social media when they simply parade their words by “Hey u look pretty, wanna have xchat?” who don’t even have guts to say Sex. Oh, also they come with their own justification of “I felt like saying directly.” LOL at their honesty mixed with delusions.
Did I get all your attention now? Coming to the story of selfish nature, I did a little research on this topic. It is not just a stereotype. A proven behaviour among a group of men and women shows “women’s reward system of brain is geared towards prosocial nature, whereas men’s is with his egocentric nature”. So, Girls, next time don’t ask them “Why are even men?” Love them as they are or run away to save yourself.
I was so absorbed and thought for a long time after reading “Gruhabhanga” by S.L.Bhyrappa, the most depressing novel I must say. One of the characters “Channigaraya” was quite catchy to me who uses his manipulative technique to save some snacks and asks a bordered dhoti amid his own daughter’s marriage. Not just that, his wife writes accounts (which is his job actually) and man, he simply eats mysorepak and dosa in hotel when kids and wife were suffering at home without food. I will tell you some of the similar versions of men. Maybe fictional too and I am not responsible for any coincidences.
Here comes one great father who always buy varieties of food from hotel when the kids and mother has only sweet potato and upma or nothing at home. Whenever I ask his son, he would defend by saying “dad is an asthmatic patient, and he wants to eat hot” and himself proud of eating the leftover food. Tch tch tch, I could never look at the brighter side of his father, even when he took their mother to Tajmahal, well after hitting her and oops selling her diamond earring for it.
Ah here comes another guy who comes to his mother-in-law’s home, who takes care of him so much for the sake of her daughter to be treated properly. Poor woman, what will she do when her daughter is beaten to pulp after he comes home drinking without earning a single penny and treated her like some cattle. We do not have to get serious here, let’s talk about this handsome patron of food, sleep and sex. One scared Sister-in-law of his must buy pigeons in a yellow cotton bag (manjapai), tied only, she drops the bag on the road due to flapping of wings and she begs an ongoer to help with the birds to be dropped at home for the soup. Hey, he needs to be strong for the night, what do u know? Ahem, also he wears makeup (don’t call me sexist, ok?), much to the dismay of his father-in-law who toiled throughout his childhood to feed his siblings, mother and his children.
Is it just a disrespect or irresponsibility of this one who defecate inside a home so that his wife will clean or the one urinates sitting in his wheelchair so that his mother takes out the basin even when both were capable of walking? Disgusting right? Should I even talk about this one who blames his wife for taking him to abort the foetus nth time, when he simply hallucinates, he does not have any connection with it. Umm, maybe buck stops at the pleasure assistance in procreation alone to keep her under the dress of progeny.
Selfishness is a little healthy habit when dealing with toxic people or at certain situation, but when it crosses the threshold of possessing a human who shows love and respect, then I ask you “Are you even considered to be a human? Who are you?”
When the little child Vishwa, son of Channigaraya crosses him, the selfish father does not even get up whereas the reader in us want to hug the kid who lost everything and came back to write the novel. From selflessness comes Compassion, which is the light and right to the world.
See, I am not here for misandry. Bro, these are Science and facts.
Fine, #NotAllMen
P.S: Take it with a pinch of salt. Even if you take it as a dessert, am going to pretend like someone wrote this.
My 2 cents to #AllMen. Pain of reading this post maybe inevitable, But Suffering is optional. BREATHE!
